There are plenty of guides online to help you plan your wedding. You can find everything from checklists for organizing your life to flowers that are in season to goodies that go in the bathroom baskets. But I don’t see a lot of advice on what to ask your wedding photographer. And I don’t mean, “How much do you cost?” or “When do we see the photos?” I mean the nitty-gritty questions that are sure to come up on your wedding day and that you probably never thought to ask. Here are a few questions you may not have known that you COULD ask your wedding photographer, along with what I hope are helpful answers.
How do I handle my divorced parents during family photo time?
Families are complicated. This is never so obvious as when it’s time for the formal family photos at your wedding. Families often expect divorces, deaths, estrangements, and feuds to be left aside at a wedding, but they don’t really disappear.
The answer is that you should let your wedding photographer know about any touchy family situations that might make people uncomfortable during the family portraits. That way, she can tactfully and gently manage the family photo time so that no one feels left out, pushed aside, or forgotten. You don’t want to find yourself in the middle of tough family situations on your wedding day.
I ask my clients to make a list of the combinations of formal family photos they would like to have taken (more on that here) and to include notes about family situations that I should know about. Let your wedding photographer know the truth! My goal is always to make the family photo time fun and efficient and easy. Fill me in on important details.
Remember, too, that there is no golden rule about which family members to include or exclude from photos. Think about what photos you would actually display in you home and think about family photos you’d like to pass onto your children. Those are the photos to make.
Our celebrant won’t allow flash (or photography, period) during the ceremony – what do we do?
It’s always a good idea to check with your officiate and make sure that photography and/or flash photography are allowed during the ceremony. If not, this is your photographer’s problem to solve – not yours! We can make time for photos after the ceremony, make sure we have equipment for low-light photos, or speak to the celebrant directly to come up with other solutions. Either way, it’s smart to ask and let your photographer know the outcome.
What do “getting ready photos” really mean?
“Getting ready photos” mean different things to different photographers and couples. For me, it doesn’t mean that I photograph every moment of your day from when you wake up until you walk down the aisle. It means just the last 30-40 minutes of “getting ready.” This is a sacred time – zipping up the dress, putting on cufflinks, tying bow ties, getting jewelry and shoes on, looking in the mirror one last time as a non-married person – and there are lots of sacred moments to be documented! You may have your parents there, your best friends, your best man, or maybe it’s you and your spouse-to-be. Either way, I find those last 30 minutes treasured moments worth remembering. I promise that it’s not about photographing anything too personal or embarrassing!
Can I send you my Pinterest page?
I love seeing couples’ Pinterest pages! Yes, please do share them with me! Some photographers discourage people from looking on Pinterest for photos they like. After all, we can’t guarantee that we can replicate any photo because lighting, décor, settings, and people are different at every wedding! Still, seeing what you like on Pinterest helps me get ideas about the kinds of photos you’re looking for. Sure, I’ll use my own experience and creativity to document your day, but knowing what you like helps me hit the mark. So go ahead and browse Pinterest! (I am addicted, too!)